Rights and Responsibilities

At the end of the month, I will be heading out of state to southwestern North Dakota to help rid the countryside of an infestation of ringneck pheasants who are terrorizing the locals. Since I will be gone election day, I dropped my absentee ballot off at the post office earlier this week. As a citizen, it is not only my right, but my responsibility to vote in the upcoming election. As a Christian, it is my sacred duty to vote with a conscience informed by the heart of the Church’s social teaching. Our Catholic faith is not simply an outer garment we can wear on the outside and then take off when we enter the voting booth (or mail in our absentee ballot).

Catholic Social Teaching, as well as our own U.S. Declaration of Independence, is very clear that in a just society, citizens are endowed with certain “inalienable rights.” But with enjoyment of these rights comes correlative responsibilities towards the society in which we are a part.  For example, as Catholics we are very clear that the right to life from conception to natural death is inviolable.  But at the same time then, we have a responsibility to foster and protect life at EVERY stage along the spectrum of life, not just at its beginning. 

There are many other examples of this.  To learn more about Rights and Responsibilities in Catholic Social Teaching, please watch this 3-minute video:

then go to:

https://www.usccb.org/beliefs-and-teachings/what-we-believe/catholic-social-teaching/rights-and-responsibilities

We all have a responsibility to vote an informed conscience. To do otherwise is morally irresponsible.

Stewards of Gods’ Abundant Gifts

I’m fascinated by science and space exploration.

       Thus I took great interest that in preparation for the colonization of the Moon and the eventual mission to Mars, NASA and Space X had recently put several cows into orbit…It was the herd shot round the world. 

       Don’t laugh, the steaks have never been higher!  

But it was not well done. They burned up on reentry.  It was udder disaster. 

       (I’m going to get some searing comments about that one.) 

Anyhoo, I like a good steak.  Even more I enjoy having a good steak or any good meal with the friends in my bubble around a nice table. The parish house is very blessed to have a nice set of china donated by Helen and an equally nice set of silver. 

       Incidentally, as a COVID survival technique.  I encourage you to break out the good China and crystal at least once a week, maybe for Sunday dinner and cook up an outrageously elaborate meal and share it with those in your bubble.

       There are lot of reasons for doing this. 

       1.  It’s fun.

       2.  It brings elegance and class into an increasingly drab world.

       3.  It’s a good way to give thanks to God for his generosity.

In a way, that’s a lot of what our Lord is getting at today in the Gospel with the parable of the Wedding Banquet.

First, let’s look at the first reading.

       What’s the lesson here?

              THE LORD WILL PROVIDE…IN ABUNDANCE!

Listen to the language

       On this mountain the LORD of hosts

              will provide for all peoples

              a feast of rich food and choice wines,

              juicy, rich food and pure, choice wines.   

 Then he goes on to say that the Lord will establish peace among peoples, and destroy even death itself

       What Isaiah is describing this the “messianic age” when the world and everyone in it will reconciled to God and live in harmony in accord with God’s plan. In a word, everything will be as it is intended to be. 

The 23rd psalm echoes this sense of harmony and abundance.

       “He spread the table before me in the sight of my foes.

He anoints my head with oil – my cup overflows. ”

Paul also speaks to the abundance of God’s generosity  In this case, he downplays the role of the material in this world. For him, it just didn’t matter,

       I have learned the secret of being well fed and of going hungry,

              of living in abundance and of being in need.

But he is very clear that God is not stingy, especially when it comes to bestowing his grace and spirituals gifts on his beloved (that’s us). 

       My God will fully supply whatever you need,

              in accord with his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.


So, now that we understand that God does not just give us what we need, but far more than what we need, especially when it comes to the grace and power we need to live the life to which we have been called, let’s dive into the parable.

Like all parables, it lends itself to multiple levels of interpretation. But the context of this one is pretty clear. Like last week, it is addressed to the chief priests and the elders.  In short, those who have been entrusted with the spiritual heritage of God’s people. 

With this in mind, the intent of the parable is clear. Jesus is chewing them out for being poor stewards of their heritage

The King who throws the banquet is the Lord God.

       Those first invited are the religious leaders.

The wedding feast is the Kingdom of God and the very messianic age described by Isaiah in the first reading.

A word about wedding feasts in ancient Palestine.

       They were outrageously lavish affairs.

       Remember there were four parts to the wedding ritual.

              The contract,

              the betrothal,

              the transfer of the bride to the household of the groom,

              and the wedding banquet. 

These wedding banquets went on for days.

       It is surmised that the wedding at Cana had been going on for three days before they ran out of wine. Imagine that.

You can imagine how elaborate a royal wedding feast could be. That is the image that Jesus wanted in people’s minds when he was talking about the heavenly banquet.

The King sends out the invitation.

       The messengers or the Old Testament prophets.

Surprisingly, the invited guests don’t come. 

       And we know from other places in the sacred text that many prophets were rejected, and some, like Jeremiah, were actually killed.

       Here, he is scolding the religious leaders of his day for doing the exact same thing as their forebears. 

So, echoing last week’s words: “tax collectors and prostitutes are entering the Kingdom before you,”

       the parable continues with the invitation to whomever they can find. 

       It’s sort of a messianic “come as you are party.” 

And that’s pretty much what we try to do as well as the Church. The call to discipleship is universal. 

       It’s not about being worthy, it’s about being called.

       The Church is a hospital for sinners, not a rest home for saints.


But now we get to the troubling part of the parable. The casting out of the fellow without the wedding garment.  

It’s very intriguing because it seems so harsh What’s Jesus trying to say here?

Jesus knew the human condition better than just about anybody.  And he knew his disciples were not immune from the same tendency.

       They can see what he is doing, putting the religious leaders in their place. I could imagine Jesus disciples getting pretty smug as they listened to the parable about the feast.

       So, the second part of the parable is for them

              and for us.

In a word…don’t get smug!  Don’t get complacent just because you’ve been invited to the feast.

So what’s the deal with the wedding garment?

       Well, apparently in those days, especially at royal functions, as a courtesy to elevate the dignity of the guests and to make sure the decorum of the gathering was maintained, the host would give to each guest a garment to be worn.

       It was a gesture of hospitality. The host wanted to you to look good for the occasion, and so he gave you the means to do so.

This would have been the case at the wedding feast described in the parable.

       The implication here, is that this particular fellow was given the wedding garment when he arrived, but had removed it at some point, thus insulting the king. 

       The implications for us are profound. 

       For us, the wedding garment is the white garment placed on us at our baptism. Very much like the one (the server), Deacon Mick, and I am wearing now. 

       We are wearing them, of course, on your behalf.  But if you wanted to, I suppose you could wear one every time you came into the church. Wouldn’t that be something to see? 

      
We are each given on of these at our baptism, but like this fellow who removed his wedding garment, when we sin or when we even fail to identify ourselves as disciples of Jesus by our actions or inactions, in effect we remove the baptismal garment given to us by the King of Kings and Lord of Lords when he invited us to this Eucharistic feast. 

       Think about your physical baptismal garment.

       Where is it? What does it look like now?

Now thing about your spiritual baptismal garment, the one you wear on the inside, next to your heart and soul.  

Is it worn or stained?  Is it moth-eaten or musty for lack of use?  Does it need a good mending or washing in the sacrament of reconciliation to make it presentable at feast?  

       I could go on. But my point is clear.

In the abundance of God’s love and mercy, we have each been invited to the feast.

       Have we been good stewards of this great gift of faith? 

       Have we cherished our baptism in and worn the our baptismal garment in gratitude and steadfast faith?

       If so, then as Paul says, we can do all things in him who strengthens us.

       If not, then it’s time to get to the confessional.

Let me close by reminding us all of the words that were said to us at our baptism when we were clothed in white garment symbolizing that our sins are always washed clean in the blood of the Lamb.

My dear friends in Christ in St. Patrick’s Parish (and beyond),

you have become a new creation,

and have clothed yourself in Christ.

See in this white garment the outward sign of your Christian dignity.

With your family and friends to help you by word and example,

bring that dignity unstained

into the everlasting life of heaven. All: Amen     

Catholic Social Teaching II, The Call to Family, Community and Participation

     I saw a bumper sticker the other day: “Alaska—Land of the individual and other endangered species.”  Indeed, here in the Great Land, we have always admired the guys like Dick Proenneke who can go into the wilderness, chop down trees, build a cabin, and live in it for years, hunting and trapping and whatnot. The self-reliant individual is one of our great cultural myths. I say “myth” because in reality, there is no such thing as a completely self-reliant individual. As impressive as these guys are, we have to also admit that there is something a bit eccentric about them. As John Donne said so well in his 17th century poem, “No Man is an Island.”  Eventually, even Dick Proenneke had to come into town for supplies.

To be human is to be a social being.  We are born into a family, we grow up in our neighborhood, our school, our town.  We identify ourselves within the context of a nation, a people…a Church.

The laws of society and the public policies that enact them must first protect and the defend the rights of the nuclear family.  Perhaps at no time in our nation’s history have the unintended negative consequences of well-meaning, but poorly conceived public policy had such a devastating effect on the most basic unit of human society, the nuclear family.

Similarly, we have an obligation and a right to form communal ties with others as a Church, in fraternal and charitable organizations, even political parties, that help to build up a just society.

Finally, a just society must allow for all citizens to participate in the political process that will determine the course of civil society at the local, state, and national levels.  It is not enough simply to provide the legal right to participate, but people must also have the practical means by which they can actually do so. 

Society is at its best when it promotes and protects healthy families, healthy communities, and the participation in civic life of all members of society.

To learn more about the call to Family, Community and Participation, please watch this 3-minute video:

then go to:

https://www.usccb.org/beliefs-and-teachings/what-we-believe/catholic-social-teaching/call-to-family-community-and-participation

This is a critical time in our society. Voting with an informed conscience is everybody’s responsibility.               – Fr. Leo

Respect Life Sunday – Deacon Mick Fornelli

Once again, Deacon Mick has given an excellent homilly – this time on Respect Life Sunday. His text is below. – LAW

The parable of the vineyard, to a certain degree
sums up the story of redemption.
The leaders of Israel were given care of the vineyard but
they didn’t produce for the Lord.
They rejected and killed the Son
who came to help, assist and guide them
in producing a yield for the Lord.
Finally, the vineyard
was then given to new stewards and keepers.
These new stewards, these new keepers,
these new managers of the vineyard in todays world
are you and me.

The vineyard is our world, our society.
It is rich in abundant blessings.
So—what are we doing with the vineyard?
How are we caring for it?
You see, within this vineyard is the most precious gift of all,
the gift of human life.

Do we reverence life?
Of course, we reverence life when we see a beautiful baby,
a young married couple,
a person at the height of his or her powers.
If something should ever happen to such individuals,
all the medical resources of this society
would be gathered and mobilized to help save a life.

The real challenge
we bring to our vineyard, our country
is to ask not
whether we reverence life in the beautiful,
the healthy, the talented
but whether we care for all human life.

Now, some people say the Catholic Church is preoccupied with abortion, with protecting the unborn.
Once a baby is born, they say,
the Catholic Church disappears.
This is absolutely false!
If there is any institution on earth that
for the twenty centuries of its existence
has looked after the poor, the sick,
the orphans, the hungry, the uneducated,
those afflicted with cancer, aids, Covid-19,
the homeless, addicts,
refugees and immigrants (even when unpopular),
it’s the Catholic Church.

This massive commitment by the Catholic Church
to the works of mercy
is true not only in the United States but around the world.
Today, however,
the Church focuses especially on the unborn because
that is where a major threat resides today.

To disregard life at its most vulnerable,
when you can’t see it, can’t tickle it,
can’t touch it, can’t look into its eyes
is the beginning of the dehumanizing
and trivializing of all human life,
the start of the slippery slope
to the disregard for all human life
that we see escalating today.

That is why the Church today is the voice of the unborn,
as she was for the lepers,
the disabled, and the orphan in the past.
The wider issue, of course,
is not only what is happening to the unborn
but what is happening to us.

There are groups around that
take care of the environment
because the environment can’t take care of itself.
There are groups of people dedicated
to the taking care of wildlife,
following the mandate of Genesis,
because wildlife in today’s world can’t protect itself.

So what about the care of human life,
especially unborn life?
These human beings cannot protect themselves either.

God gave us a beautiful world
in which we can come to grow
in His image and to know Him.
The crown of this vineyard is human life.

If this portion of the vineyard, human life, is ravaged,
it won’t be from outer space,
it will be from neglect here on earth.
It won’t be from some outside invasion
but from within,
as human life is wasted and destroyed by our action or inaction.

My friends, choose some dimension of human life,
the elderly, the disabled, or especially today,
the unborn and make that your area of special care,
your way of serving the Lord and caring for the vineyard.

The month of October and specifically this Sunday
has been designated
Respect Life Month
by the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops.

It’s a time for us to evaluate
how well we are doing in the vineyard
to respect life of —
all ages, races, colors, and creeds from conception to natural death.
To respect the precious gift of life
especially for those who are unable to protect themselves
or speak for themselves.

God has given us a vineyard,
the only one like it, as far as we know, in the universe
blessed with the miracle of human life.
The Lord has sent his Son to help us
through the power of the Holy Spirit.

The Lord has truly given us a beautiful country,
this vineyard called the United States.
Whether it’s a place where
all human life has a chance to grow and thrive
is up to us — up to you and me.
Whether the future holds a respect for human life
is not decided by the stars,
it will be decided by ourselves.

We have been given a job to do by the Lord.
None of us can do everything.
We all can do something
to restore respect for human life
In our vineyard —- in our time of stewardship.

Or as we heard in today’s gospel——-

“Therefore, I say to you, the Kingdom of God will be taken away from you and given to a people that will produce its fruit”

The Life and Dignity of the Human Person

The Catholic Church has seen every empire, kingdom and government come and go for the last 2100 years. In that time, we’ve learned a thing or two.

     As we prepare for the upcoming election, it is our moral obligation to vote with a well-formed conscience. No matter where you might see yourself on the political spectrum, to ignore the wisdom of the one institution that has survived history would be patently irresponsible.

The first thing that makes for a just society is a healthy respect and the protection of the law for the life and dignity of the human person. All other rights are predicated on this fundamental principle. Without the right to life and protection of the dignity of one’s person, no other civil rights are possible.

The essential question here is: WHO is considered a full participant in civil society?  What is the standard by which one is considered a “person” in civil law so that they may exercise their rights and fulfill their obligations within society? 

The Church has always maintained that one is considered a human person from the moment of conception. But it does not stop there. It is not enough simply to be “Pro-conception” or “Pro-birth.” Life is sacred AND social. Thus, we all have a continuing obligation to promote the dignity of every person in society at every stage of life from conception to natural death. This includes attention to such things as affordable housing, access to health care, a living wage, participation in civic life, equal justice under the law, and the right to one’s life and dignity as he or she nears the end of life. In a nutshell, as a society, we are judged on how we treat our most vulnerable members, as well as who we consider to be members in the first place.

To learn more about the Life and Dignity of the Human Person, please watch this 3-minute video:

then go to:

https://www.usccb.org/beliefs-and-teachings/what-we-believe/catholic-social-teaching/life-and-dignity-of-the-human-person

This is a critical time in our society. Voting with an informed conscience is everybody’s responsibility.               – Fr. Leo

Faithful, Charitable Citizenship

Every couple of years I hate listening to the radio or turning on the TV.  The six weeks before the election provide some of the most acrimonious advertising you will ever see. This year is no exception as obscene amounts of money are being spent here to sway the balance of power in the Senate and House of Representatives. Because of our small media market, Alaska is especially inundated with political advertising. To get the same media penetration on the east coast as here, political parties and special interest groups would have to spend up to ten times more. Lucky us. The result is a never-ending stream of vitriol and negative advertising. We have ceased to talk policy and have resorted to character assassination. Surely we can do better than that.  

As Catholics, we are morally bound to exercise our civic duty to vote and participate in the political process and civic activities. Thankfully, the Church in her wisdom has articulated its social teaching in seven central principles that help us make sense of it all. These are:

· The Life and Dignity of the Human Person.

· Solidarity

· Care for God’s Creation

· Call to Family, Community and Participation

· Preferential Option for the Poor and Vulnerable

· Rights and Responsibilities

· Dignity of Work and Rights of Workers

Between now and the election, I will be featuring one or more of these themes in each column.  In the meantime, if you want to learn more go to:

· https://www.usccb.org/beliefs-and-teachings/what-we-believe/catholic-social-teaching/seven-themes-of-catholic-social-teaching   or

· https://www.crs.org/resource-center/CST-101

We all have a duty to vote an INFORMED CONSCIENCE.  This is a good places to start.   – Fr. Leo

God’s Ways, Our Ways

Last week I talked about how every sin we have ever committed or ever will commit has already been forgiven by God. Our response to that grace is to place ourselves at the foot of the Cross in the Sacrament of Reconciliation (Confession). This week sort of follows up on that with the parable of the generous vintner. 

       It was a common thing in the ancient world (and even the modern world in some places, like Home Depot) that day laborers would gather in central square and those landowners and contractors who needed workers would go there to hire them for the day. The usual daily wage was a silver coin worth ten donkeys called a denarius. (Hence the name, for you Latin scholars out there.) A typical workday was from dawn to dusk.

       Given the brief hiring process, the owner usually had to keep an eye on the workers so that they didn’t slack off or steal his stuff. The odd thing about the story is that he keeps going there at different hours of the day. This should be the first hint to the listener that my thoughts are not your thoughts/nor are your ways my ways, says the LORD. (Is 55:7)

       This is an important thing for us to keep in mind, especially in a parish like this. Alaska is one of those places where longevity brings credibility and status.  People will introduce themselves to you and immediately tell you how long they have been in the state, in the parish, in the neighborhood, etc.  There is a temptation to think of oneself as a bit more important or deserving simply because one has been here more than one winter.

       At the same time, we Alaskans and St. Patrick’s folks are pretty darn good at welcoming the newcomer. We love our state, our town, our neighborhood, and our parish. We want other people to love it too. So we bring cookies to new neighbors, help folks out with furniture, get them connected to things going on in the local scene that might interest them. In many ways we do this better than in other places. Probably because most of us came here from somewhere else too.

       This is the virtue that Jesus is talking about in the parable. In this sense, the denarius represents our relationship with God and each other. What matters is that at some point we have been invited into the vineyard. When we get there is meaningless. 

       This is because the Kingdom of God is about relationships. Sometimes you will hear me talk about “Our parish family”. This is very intentional. Think about your own immediate family, such as it is?  Is the last child any less a part of the family than the first child, simply because they arrived on the scene later?  No.  In the same way, none of us is less a member of the parish, less a member of the Church, less a member of the Kingdom because we got here later than someone else.

       Let us strive then to welcome others into this little part of the vineyard we call St. Patrick’s Parish, and to invite as many as we can into this gathering of holy goofballs we call the St. Patrick Parish family. 

The Challenge of Forgiveness

I have mentioned that I have found at least three ways that we are made in the image and likeness of God – 1. We can love as God loves.  2.  We can create, taking what God has given us and helping the world become what he has intended it to be.  And 3. We can forgive as God forgives. 

       The second two flow from the first.  Love by its very nature creates and when creation goes astray, love by its very nature restores. Today, the Lord is very clear that we must forgive if we are to enter the kingdom of God.

       Love is an interesting thing. Love intends what is good for the other, not what is evil. If I am a loving person, I want what will make you whole, not what will diminish or destroy you. The desire and the absolute human need for love is part of the human condition. Yet, one must experience being loved before he or she can authentically love another. It’s a learned phenomenon. It’s very tough to love someone else if you have never experienced what love looks like and feels like. Forgiveness finds its origin in love. It’s easy when you are doing what is right. It gets a little harder when you are doing something that is hurting others. 

       And here is where the parable of the unforgiving servant helps us out.  Peter was being quite benevolent when he suggested forgiving another seven times. Seven is a perfect number symbolizing completeness.  It seems to make sense and there were probably nods of agreement from the other disciples when he said it.  But Jesus is insistent that it is not even close.

       The meaning of the parable is clear.  We can only forgive others to the degree that we ourselves have been forgiven. The point of the story here is that just like the this servant, we have been forgiven a HUGE debt.  Every sin we have ever committed or will commit has been forgiven by Christ in his one perfect sacrifice on the cross. Yet, we have to experience the enormity of that forgiveness.  Otherwise, we will not be able to give that same gift to others. 

       That is why the sacrament of reconciliation is so important.  It’s one thing to know intellectually that one’s sins are forgiven.  It’s quite another to experience that definitively in the confessional.

       I always encourage folks to get to confession about once a month.  I don’t know about you, I can’t go a month without sinning.  In the sacraments we kneel at the foot of the cross and sometimes the best we can do is say, Lord be merciful to me, a sinner. 

       Confession is good for the soul, and frequent confession is the source of grace we need to forgive others.  In a way, it’s like making frequent adjustments to the steering wheel.  If you do it often enough, the adjustments are pretty minor.  But if you wait too long then the adjustment is much more severe. If we wait too long, our negligence can have eternal consequences.  Don’t delay.

       Christ has forgiven you everything.  Should you not do the same for those who sin against you?  Love wants what is best for the other.  Should not you who have been loved and forgiven, love and forgive the one who sins against you?  It is not easy, but if the Cross teaches us anything, it is that it is possible. 

       As I said, I have found three ways in which we are made in the image and likeness of God. 1.  We can love.  2. We can create and 3.  We can forgive.  Let us forgive one another as we ourselves have been forgiven. 

Lessons from the ‘Rona

“Stay safe and sane!” 

     I have started to put this little phrase at the end of just about all of my correspondence and texts these days.  As we enter into the seventh month of this pandemic, I finding that I’m experiencing different stresses than I was at the beginning. For example, I used to be really intrigued by the utility and novelty of a Zoom video conference. Now I see them merely as a necessary evil for conducting essential business. The same goes for social media. I had a little fun with livestreaming at the beginning, but over time I’ve experienced just how painful it is to celebrate Mass in an empty church. I miss you all very dearly.

Thankfully, that is changing next week as we gather inside the church for the first time since March 8th, albeit at 50% capacity, or as much as social distancing will allow. I can’t wait!

Looking back over the past six months, I must admit that I’ve learned a few things from the ‘Rona. Here are just a few of them.

I’ve learned that uncertainty and instability, whether it’s in the regulatory environment, the economy, or even the fact that there might not be basic items at the grocery store, is very frustrating.  I’ve also learned that it’s important to find healthy ways to deal with that frustration so that I don’t take it out on others who don’t deserve it. I’ve learned that prayer and exercise, especially outdoors, help a lot with this.

I’ve learned that it is really difficult to tell a person’s expression while he or she is wearing a face covering. I’ve also learned that there are certain people who know how to smile with their eyes. I’m trying to learn how to do this myself. I’ve also learned that the eyes truly are the windows to the soul. I find myself looking people in the eye more these days.

I’ve learned that the pandemic, especially the isolation part, is particularly hard on those who feel they are nearing the end of life. I’ve also learned what a difference a simple phone call can make to a loved one.  I find myself listening to my elders more.

I’ve learned that the convenience and utility of videoconferencing and livestreaming, etc., as good as it is, simply doesn’t compare to personal, physical interaction with family, friends and fellow parishioners. I’ve also learned that virtual family gatherings pretty much run out of conversation after the first half hour.

Finally, I’ve learned how much people love their Lord and their parish. I’ve also seen how in the midst of adversity and uncertainty, people find amazingly creative ways to support one another in faith.

So, stay safe and sane, People of God. Let’s keep looking out for each other and keeping each other in prayer.               – Fr. Leo

Love and Sacrifice

I like to listen to Clark Howard on the radio. He is a wealth of information for those who are looking to simplify their life and minimize the expenses of daily living. He also spends a lot of time talking with people about saving for their retirement and whatnot. While I find those segments interesting, they are not compelling. Oh, don’t get me wrong. I used to be in business. I plan prudently for retirement as well as the next person, maybe better. It’s just that so many see a well planned, comfortable retirement as the ultimate goal. For the Christian, retirement is merely a step the journey. Our ultimate goal is heaven. St. Augustine said it well: “Our hearts are restless, O God, until they rest in you.” 

One thing is abundantly clear in this week’s gospel passage. Namely, the Kingdom of Heaven is not about accumulating things in this life. The one who dies with the most toys, or the most fabric, or whatever…still dies. Rather it is about emptying oneself for others. The ancient Greeks had a great word for this – “kenosis.” 

This complete gift of self found its greatest expression in the sacrifice of Christ on the Cross. Christ emptied himself completely so that we might “have life and have it to the full.” (Jn 10;10)

I think that this idea of self-sacrifice, this kenosis, helps us to make sense of what Jesus means when he says that we must “take up our cross” daily if we would follow him. You don’ have to look far to see it in real life.  Parents sacrifice daily for their children; spouses sacrifice daily for each other; pastors for their people.

It is in a life lived for others where we learn that a full life is not so much about having all the right things, but rather in giving oneself to right relationships with God, self and others. Love of God, who emptied himself for us on the Cross, finds its expression in our love for each other.

In part, this is what St. Paul is referring to when he writes to the Romans:

I urge you, brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God,
to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice,
holy and pleasing to God, your spiritual worship
.

Romans 12:1

To empty oneself as Christ did, to live a kenotic life, can be profound at times. But usually, it is lived under the radar, in mundane tasks and the sacrifices of daily living.

I have an uncle who is a saint.  His cause has not been promoted yet, but I am convinced that someday it will be.

Don Cahill came into our family when married my Aunt Joann in 1947.  Soon after they were married, she developed rheumatoid encephalitis.  She recovered after a year and they had four children, cousins Mike, Pat, Donny and Jan.  They made their home just outside Portland.  In 1974, when Aunt Joann was 48, she returned from a wedding with what seemed like the flu. But instead it was another type of encephalitis, different than the first. This one destroyed her brain, erasing her memory. It changed her personality. Once devout and quiet, she became quite talkative, sometimes sweet and sometimes screeching and hollering. She never did remember her children or her husband.

For the next 34 years Uncle Don made her meals. He ironed. He hosted holidays. He kept Aunt Joanne looking great: He shopped Nordstrom and bought her undergarments and Clinique makeup, which he learned to apply quite expertly. He shaved her legs. He curled her hair; he took her to the beauty shop. 

Every Sunday he took Aunt Joann to Mass. Uncle Don was more of a practical Catholic than a devout one, but he knew that she would have wanted to be there. But before they left the house, he made sure her lipstick was perfect, and that she was dressed in a snappy outfit.

Sometimes people would ask him why he went through all the trouble and he simply replied, “People don’t realize that I really, really love her.”

With the Cahills living in Oregon and our family living up here, I didn’t get to know Uncle Don as well as I would have liked. But still, on the few occasions I did get to spend time with him, he would not strike you a as particularly holy or heroic man. He simply went about loving his wife and living his faith in a very practical, businesslike way because it was the right thing to do.

Uncle Don died Feb. 19, 2008, after his final bout with cancer. His biggest worry was who would take care of Aunt Joann when he passed. 

Of course, their kids picked up the ball and she lived a very dignified life for another 12 years, entering eternal life on July 5th at the age of 94. I like to imagine the happiness of their reunion in eternity. 

If Uncle Don taught me anything, it is that holiness is not complicated.  And where love is present, sacrifice comes without hesitation.

Yes, I have an uncle who is a saint.  His cause has not been promoted yet, but I am convinced that someday it will be.

I look at Jesus’ words in the Gospel today.  I listen to the words of St. Paul to the Romans. I think about my Uncle Don and Aunt Joanne and their life together. 

And I realize that that a grace-filled life is not so much about having all the right things, but rather in giving oneself completely to the right relationships with God, self and others. The love of Christ, who emptied himself for us on the Cross, finds its best expression when we too empty ourselves out of love for one another.

         James Dean, the Rebel Without a Cause, was wrong. The purpose of life is not to “Life fast, die young and leave a good-looking corpse.” I think Hunter S. Thompson came closer to the mark when he wrote: “Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “Wow! What a Ride!”

 

Uncle Don and Aunt Joann on their wedding day.
Uncle Don and Aunt Joann, a few years later.